Why do women fake orgasms? Is it because we don't like sex? Or because the sex isn't good? Or because YOU aren't skilled, talented or experienced enough to get her to the point of no return? The truth is, there is so much myth and misinformation out there regarding the elusive (and erotic) art of making a woman climax... that most men end up believing things that are 100% untrue.
For example?
The idea that ALL women can climax from conventional sex is 100% untrue. Some women LOVE intercourse, but simply aren't able to achieve orgasm from this type of intimacy. They may be multi-orgasmic otherwise... but "sex" in it's most literal definition, is NOT the way to get her there for sure.
Other women are different, and find orgasms from intercourse the most pleasurable type to have. That said,just about EVERY woman CAN orgasm from sexual activity, and learning what most pleases your partner is the key to making sure your girl is NOT looking elsewhere for release.
Let's look at 3 NEW rules for better sex for both of you, and learning how simple erotic "tweaks" to your technique can make for MAJOR league differences in her desire.
Rule #1: Most women take 30-40 minutes to climax during sex.
Most men? Less than 10. The secret is... SLOW down. Take your time. The less you rush... even if you feel the urge, the better off it will be for her. The truth is, getting your "clocks" to be compatible is probably the #1 easiest way to make sure that both of you are getting the erotic release you crave from sex... and one of you isn't left holding the bag when it's done.
Rule #2: Speaking of clocks... women have a sexual response cycle that is very different from that of a man.
There are a whole host of things that happen in the female body as she begins to build up to climax that simply do NOT happen in the biology of a man's body. (which is why premature ejaculation, for example... is very common in men, and yet there is very little similar sexual dysfunction in women - e.g. - women rarely have a problem with finishing too fast!)
Understanding that her body gradually moves in sexy steps and wonderful waves towards organs, and NOT one quick sensation, is the key to not only helping her get there, but to actually speed up the process as well. The more you understand how her body works... the more likely you'll be to be able to apply an experts touch as well. Stay in control... and at least 50% of the time, let her body's needs guide the experience.
Rule #3: Learn to be an observer of sexy signs and symbols
How so? Women have very concrete, very universally observable physiological signs as we approach orgasm. For example? A flushing of the skin, as blood rushes to the surface of the body. (often noticed in the stomach, the thighs and the lower abdomen) Most women will also begin to perspire as their body approaches climax. Her pupils will dilate. And stereotypical signs like the curling of the toes is ALSO an involuntary response that she is ready to climax. (the same is true for men!)
Remember, just because there is more mystery around the female orgasm, doesn't mean you should disregard it's importance. To many women... being able to climax during sex is one of the MOST important factors in a relationship... and while she may be too modest to admit it, one of the biggest reasons a woman will end an otherwise good relationship prematurely, or worse... go looking for that sort of experience elsewhere, instead.
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