Is Your Boyfriend the Man You Are Looking for? Do the Boyfriend Test!

The boyfriend test

We've all been there. You fall in love and you lose your head. Head over heels is what they call it and there's probably no greater force in the universe than the power to fall in love. But what about after the first rush of excitement is over?

• If you have a track record of attracting mister Wrong.
• If you have a history of abusive relationships.
• If you want to know if this guy is right for you.

-Ask yourself the 6 questions in this boyfriend test.

1: How does your boyfriend talk about his ex-girlfriend(s)?

While it may be satisfying to hear how much he now hates her, this is usually not a good sign. If he blames her for the relationship failing or talks badly about her: remember, he will speak that way about you someday.

A real man will acknowledge his own role in the failing of the relationship and will have learned something from that experience.

2: What is your boyfriends sexual history?

First of all: do you know it? Is he open about it? If he isn't, it's a red flag. After all, the things he's not telling you could be life threatening. Did he have many partners before you? You should know.

3: Does he have a history of violence against women?

Definitely a red flag item. Yes people can change. However: has he? Don't think he won't hit you because you're so nice. Has he had counselling? If not, is he willing to get some?

These are the red flag items, the ways of knowing you have a dud. Let's look at some of the qualities that mr. Right must have shall we? What questions should you be asking yourself about of his personality.

1. Does he listen well?

Listening is an important skill. It's really the most important part of communications. How can you tell if he listens to you? Well, he'll know things about you. He'll remember important things you tell him about your experience. He'll ask you questions that show that he's really interested in what you have to say.

2. Does he support you?

Is he in your corner? Does he support in the sense that he knows what you're trying to do with your life and supports you in your pursuit of it. Or if you're not quite clear on your purpose in life, does he support you in finding out what it might be?

3. Does he stimulate your self-worth?

When you're with him, do you feel stronger, more capable, more in tune with yourself? Can you be who you are with him? Does he help build you up? Do you grow and prosper when you're with him, becoming more yourself, a better version of yourself?

We have a winner!

How does your guy measure up to these simple questions? Are you looking for a wedding dress or are you looking for the exit sign?

Have you been in an abusive relationship? Did you suffer childhood sexual abuse?

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