Consider two guys walking down the street. One guy is thinking some pretty happy, and pretty positive thoughts. Maybe he just got a promotion at work, making a lot more money. And maybe he just got off the phone with his best friend, planning the ultimate trip to Vegas.
He comes around the corner, sees a cute girl. Naturally, he's happy and filled with self confidence, so he smiles at her, and she smiles back. One thing leads to another and before long they are enjoying the heck out of each other's company, in ways I'm sure you can imagine.
Now consider another guy. Maybe he got yelled at by his boss, or maybe he just got dumped by his girlfriend. He walks around the same corner, and sees the same girl. Since he's thinking some pretty crappy thoughts, she doesn't smile at him. She runs away, terrified of the evil scowl he's got on his face.
Now, these guys could be twin brothers, but the bottom line is their thoughts created their external behaviors and actions. The girl responded to guy number one not because she could read into his mind or his past. She just dug his outward appearance and demeanor.
The biggest myth of all is that are thoughts are slave to external events. Sure, if you don't make any effort to control your thoughts, if you let your thoughts to the easiest place possible, namely places of fear, lack and utter terror, you aren't going to be very happy.
If you depend on external events to create positive thoughts in your head, you may get lucky, you may not. This is why some guys seem lucky, while others don't.
The truth is that the only person who can control your thoughts is you. Sure, it's easy to let the world do your thinking for you. But you're the kind of guy who wants more, right? You're the kind of guy who wants to think first, and see the world respond, instead of the other way around.
How can you shape your thoughts? Simple. Practice. Forget any ideas about how your brain is supposed to run on auto pilot. Choose your thoughts in response to situations. Deal with bad stuff out there, and then let them go. Focus on creating a future that you want, not one that's going to randomly happen, giving you whatever the world feels like giving you.
Control your own thoughts, and the world will notice. Girls will notice. And you do want that, don't you?
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