Every woman will experience challenges in their relationship for a variety of reasons. From the fat that begins to pad the body, the lack of financial stability to the discovery of that nest of crows feet lining the side of her eyes, nothing could ever prepare a woman for the challenge of being left for a younger woman! Being cheated on is horrible, and probably only plays a secondary role to being cheated on and then left for a younger woman.
Many Factors Affect Why Men Leave
There are so many factors and possibilities for why women are abandoned in long time relationships for their more youthful counterparts. The midlife crisis for the male can be a booger for the bruised ego, that has to face the fact that the clock is ticking, the physical strength diminishing and the earnings potential is often lessening. On the opposite end of the spectrum there are the struggles with female intimacy and her belief that she is less attractive, which helps to saw away at the connection that once brought the couple together.
Women Are Often Defined By Partners
Often times a woman's life is defined by her partner, her children and the capacity to be the glue that holds a household and family structure together. As that family structure begins to require less oversight and maintenance so does the requirement for the female that once served as the linchpin for her family. As children grow up, prepare for college, and the age for retirement solidification become more apparent so does the realization of intolerable behaviors, habits and mannerisms of long time female partners.
Being Traded For A Younger Model
For any woman who finds herself faced with the realization that she is being traded in for a more youthful version, the blow to the heart can be devastating. However for many women growing in age, the mere thought of being left for a younger woman can strike a blow that leaves a woman scrambling. Such situations can leave a woman feeling alone, misunderstood and empty. These feelings can be difficult if not impossible to overcome and if she does not care for herself during such troubling times, it could create such a deep feeling of resentment and grief that those feelings could become nearly impossible to move beyond.
There are a few steps that can be taken to overcome the grief of relationship abandonment:
1. One of the first things to consider when attempting to deal with being abandoned by a partner is to understand that getting past such a blow will be a hefty challenge. It is important to remember that under such circumstances that it is the fault of the offender, not those that are left in the wake of the cheaters disaster.
2. Being angry is a natural response to being dumped for a younger model. A woman should always allow herself the right to be upset, because there is good reason for upset under such troubling circumstances. One should never believe that they can hide from their anger and doing so would just make matters worst.
3. Try to resist the urge to retaliate against the offender. It will take a lot of strength to prevent taking action and working towards getting even. Don't do it because it could land a woman in an even worst situation.
4. Help other women work through their troubles if they need someone to talk to. You would be surprise how many women are experiencing much of the same, so being open and coming to grips with the circumstance would be important. Something that can be used to help in working through being open about such a humiliating life situation would be to understand that there are lots of people that have and are going through the very same thing. Helping others work it out will help to bring about a level of peace and understanding.
5. Don't wait around for things to settle with the belief that he will come back because the chances of that are slim to none. In addition, don't serve as a second fiddle string backup.
6. Stay in touch with your feelings. Knowing how you feel and embracing those feelings of hurt, disappointment, and rage are all important. However, equally if not more important is to understand that love, no matter how someone treats you, does not instantly disappear. Even though you are being disrespected and mistreated, love will still remain through it all.
7. Allow yourself to grieve for your loss. In losing the man that you love to another love interest, it is abundantly important to grieve for the loss of the man that you loved, your planned future together and the fact that what you have built with him will now be shared with someone else. Allow yourself to grieve because if you don't you will always hold ill will, which will be more detrimental to you. When you hold on to hurt and anger too tightly, you leave little room for the hurt and anger to dissipate.
There are so many factors and possibilities for why women are abandoned in long time relationships for their more youthful counterparts. Often times a woman's life is defined by her partner, her children and the capacity to be the glue that holds a household and family structure together.
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