Sexual desire is a primal instinct that stems from our need to ensure survival of the species. From a scientific point of view, sex sounds more mechanical than pleasurable, and, unfortunately, that's a reality for many people. It's no secret that men are biologically infused with stronger sexual proclivity than women; regardless, the ingredients to sexual happiness are identical.
Overall happiness and sexual happiness are comprised of the same components---health, success, and fulfillment. But, sexual happiness is a team effort, meaning you need a sexual partner; doing it alone just doesn't cut it. Your mental/emotional, physical, and spiritual health is key to your sexual happiness because of its effect on how you feel about yourself. It's not only your physical appearance that catches another's attention; a high level of self-esteem can be equally attractive.
Sexual health is your ability to realize that you're desirable and to evaluate, perceive, control, and express your sexual needs. Sexual success is your ability to attract and retain a sexual partner, satisfy your needs and theirs, and fine-tune your skills and keep things interesting through experimentation. Sexual fulfillment is derived from passion and emotional connection, comfort, having your partner acknowledge how good you make them feel, and knowing you don't have to do anything you're not inclined to.
Sex is a significant element to a healthy romantic relationship. Feeling self-conscious or ashamed about the way you look, your sexual aptitude, or for having the desires you do intrudes on your sexual happiness and can be detrimental to the success of your relationship. Learning how to accept the way you feel, become comfortable in your skin, and communicate and express yourself with your partner is instrumental to not only your sexual happiness but also theirs.
If you're hung up on your physical appearance or are incredibly shy---for example, you don't want to have sex with the lights on, get undressed in front of your partner, or try different sexual positions---no amount of communication will resolve those issues. If you can't let go of your inhibitions and believe you're desirable, you and your partner will never be able to achieve sexual fulfillment.
Unless your sexual desires will inflict emotional or physical harm on someone, there's no reason to suppress them---religious beliefs aside. Insecurity or a reserved nature may cause you to feel uneasy about discussing your needs with your partner. But, without verbal and nonverbal cues, there's no way for either of you to know what the other wants or when and how to achieve it.
Pressure from your partner to have sex more often than you'd like or disappointment from their (or your) inability to get the job done may cause dissatisfaction for both of you, leading to larger complications, the longer it lasts. Before your relationship dies due to sexual discontent, you may want to consider seeking advice from a therapist trained in sexual health.
Prior to, or in conjunction with, couple's therapy, the therapist may meet with you and your partner individually to help you both understand your own needs and learn how to communicate them to each other. As long as both of you want to make the relationship work, sexual happiness can be significantly improved by communication, mutual appreciation, and compromise.
Maria C. Dawson graduated Magna Cum Laude with a bachelor's degree in accounting & finance and is a member of the Delta Mu Delta International Honor Society. She is a Certified Financial Planner(TM) and investment management specialist with an extensive background in all aspects of wealth, business, and people management. She holds FINRA Series 6, 31, 63, 65, 7, 9, and 10 licenses, as well as state Life & Health and Property & Casualty insurance licenses. She is also a professional photographer and life and happiness expert.
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