Get Rock Hard Erections by Eliminating This One Thing From Your Life

A number of us might think that sexual problems rarely happen. But this is not the case. You see, most men do suffer from sexual problems but they do not just openly talk about it. They do not share these things with their friends or family. We men are closed when it comes to topics like this. We are sensitive about these sorts of things and tend to keep these problems to ourselves because we think that having sexual problems could make us 'less of a man.'

The fact is, most men experience some sort of sexual difficulty at one time or another. Erectile dysfunction is one of the common sexual problems. Some men actually do have physical problems which prevent them from getting an erection. But, for the vast majority of men, these sorts of problems are just mental in nature. I am not a therapist or a doctor so I am not going to touch the anatomy and physiology of our reproductive organs.

But here's a quick test to find out if your erection difficulties are physical or mental in origin:

It's called the stamp test. You can do a quick google search for details, but the basic idea is this: you moisten a line of postage stamps and apply them in a ring around your penis before going to sleep. Make sure you wear your underwear to protect the stamps. The idea is that if you wake up and the postage stamp ring has ripped apart, you had an erection during the night, and your erection problems are most likely mental.

(With that said, if you are taking medications, bring up the topic of erectile difficulty to your doctor, and perhaps he will have some suggestions)

But for the sake of this article, let's look at the vast majority of men's situation. A lot of guys who think of themselves as having erection problems do experience erections sometimes, but when they are on the verge or in the act of having sex with their partner, for whatever reason, it just doesn't happen. Their penis does not get erect. In this case, what's going on is something in the mind is preventing the erection from happening.

In particular, one state of mind is preventing your erection: Anxiety.

For some people, paying therapists to help them look at the childhood traumas that could be responsible for sexual anxiety has been helpful. For others, it hasn't.

For the sake of this article, let's take a very practical approach. Let's learn a quick trick to get you out of anxiety and back into your sexual maximum performance zone.

This little trick takes advantage of your body's 'autonomic' nervous system, the unconscious 'wiring' that is responsible for all the many amazing functions that your body performs without you even thinking about it.

You see, in order to have an erection, your body has to be in the 'rest and digest' mode. When you're in this state, blood flows smoothly throughout your entire body, and everything is relaxed, warm, and happy. Contrast this with the alternative, the 'flight or flight' response. In this state, blood is directed away from the organs (including the penis) and towards the major muscle groups. This response is left over from those days when us humans had to worry about running away from saber tooth tigers and other beasts! But these days, you're most likely to feel this sort of stress response when commuting to work or getting in an argument with your girlfriend or wife.

Unfortunately, as modern people we often walk around in a low-level "fight or flight" state. And this can have terrible effects on our health. I won't go much more into that, but I wanted to mention that it often can be a contributing factor to erection problems and other sexual difficulties.

To perform better than you've ever performed in bed, the first, most important step is to be very relaxed.

And here's a little breathing trick that allows you to do just that:

1. Breathe slowly into your belly, for a count of 5
2. Hold your breath deep in your belly, again for a count of 5
3. Exhale slowly for a count of 5
4. Repeat

Do this breathing on your own at first. Get some skill with it. It will quickly shift your body out of that low level 'fight or flight' state that so many of us walk around in during our modern lives, and into that 'rest and digest' mode where you're relaxed, yet energized, and ready to have great sex.

This is the first step. In future articles, I'll get into specifically what thoughts you can think once you've gotten into this relaxed state, for the best sex of your life.

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